Dominance & The Star — By Michelle Embree 11/8/22

Medicine can be harsh. Mary Poppins famously gave us a spoonful of sugar to help us swallow what she decided was best for us. That’s a good bit of sugar really and not many modern parents would likely keep her on the payroll, but her method certainly got the job done.

Medicine can be very gentle. It can be nothing more than listening without judgment or a need to fix anything. It can be a steaming cup of rose tea with a dollop of honey stirred in. The passage of time is itself a healer who mends broken hearts and bones and disappointed expectations. But healing might also require inducing the pain that comes from making stitches or even the highly invasive act of making incisions and removing pieces of our insides. 

The Star brings a variety of healing modalities to the table, but her preferred tool is her mirror. Just as we can see an image of our culture in our celebrities whom we call stars, we can see our innermost self-reflected in the magic mirror belonging to this archetype. 

The Star is likely to appear when we are asking ourselves why this or that is happening again. ***

We need to see ourselves clearly and this might mean, often means, we must see ourselves in the midst of challenge. The Star is likely to appear when we are asking ourselves why this or that is happening again. How did we wind up right back in the same problems we thought we had learned from long ago? 

The Star’s mirror will show us both our strengths and our flaws. She will show us where we are culpable and where we should leave the fault at the feet of another. The Star will show us where we need to know ourselves better and to accept our true desires.

Mirrors in our material world can be as simple as those on the wall. A looking glass can hold great healing powers for those who suffer varieties of dissociative and dysmorphic states. A regular old wall mirror can help us to hold ourselves when we are alone or even lonely. Mirrors are a powerful tool for a healer.

We grow when we analyze how power functions between ourselves and others. ***

We can also find our strengths and flaws mirrored in others and even take action to adjust accordingly. We might also find both positive and negative patterns mirrored in a relationship of any kind. It is important to understand what type of communication we prefer but, more importantly, to become aware of what we offer others in interaction. We grow when we analyze how power functions between ourselves and others. If we cannot be wrong or make deep amends, then ask why? The answer is there in the mirrors all around us. 

We generally prefer to talk about these topics in regard to how we can heal, or better advocate for ourselves, but what about those among us who need to look at what we are doing to others with traits that are praised in our culture? 

If you prefer to dominate your relationships by insisting that others adjust to you, that is actually fine. Find those who are comfortable with that. If you don’t want to face the truth of yourself in this way, then your desire might be different than you think. Being accountable to holding a dominant position means you must be seen and engaged with by those who are respecting your preference. If, however, you hide the preference but still take up the role of dominant, what are you doing? 

Honestly, you are being a bully. Our culture values bullies who do not make amends or self-reflect, so you have that on your side if you want it.

But do you?

The Star arrives to show us how we look when we take pride in being a bully whether that is what we intend or not.

May we learn true respect.

By Michelle Embree

Author of Daydream Tarot: A Basic Guide for Visionaries

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